Zhohara

3 Steps to Finding Your Career Bliss

zhohara — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:49:43 +0000

Most of us think of work as drudgery. Something that HAS to be done rather than something that GETS to be done. The second biggest question I get asked is, “When am I going to find a job?” and behind that “How do I find a job I love?” The answer is always the same to both questions. Simple, when you find your bliss, find what you would do for free because you love it so much, someone will pay you well to do it. That sounds over simplistic, I know but really, it goes back to how many of us really know what we want. It’s across the board too, not just in work. In love, in life, in career, even in health, we must have a clear idea of where we want to be. The great thing about figuring out what we want, you don’t always have to have a clear idea of how to get there. When we are young we go through several dreams. Boys and girls often fantasize about being cowboys, fireman, policemen, ballerinas, even rock stars, may envision being before they lose the ability to dream. While a few know from very early on that they have a passion for a certain field, say, a doctor, many still succumb to the ideas others may have about what they should become or, worse, what they shouldn’t expect to become. Those overly high or overly low expectation of children and teenagers often form the basis for career choices later on in life. They also form the attitudes towards work, especially if we saw our own parents or family members stuck in jobs about which they were not passionate. Before we get to the list, let me dispel a few myths. First, it is never too late to find your passion and go for it. Second, most may want to scream at me by saying “But I need money. How do I find my career bliss and make money at the same time?”. You can find your career bliss little by little, step by step instead of making a sweeping change. Sometimes finding a career you about which you are passionate takes extra schooling, or takes planting seeds and interviewing for a long while before it comes to fruition. It can take as long as it takes so long as you are going for it. The excitement of chasing the dream can renew that spark. So how do you find your career bliss? 1. Take stock of your talents, hidden and overt. What do you love doing? What are your hobbies and interests? What gets you excited about working? Make a list of those hidden talents and then a list of potential jobs. Let me give you an example. You went to school to be an accountant because that’s what you father did when you were a kid. You hate accounting BUT you love woodworking. You are so excited about working with your hands, building something beautiful that will last generations and will grace someone’s home. Maybe you are even good at it. Do you know that skilled carpenters can make upwards of $30 an hour? Or even better, furniture craftsman make pieces that sell for hundreds or thousands of dollars. That’s just one example. From that list of potential career choices, find one that matches your skill set. If you want to become a doctor, for instance, and find that you maybe are not cut out for medical school, look at another medical career path. There are many many jobs in the healthcare field that may make you excited to go to work. 2. Look at your current job or, if you are unemployed, the path you are taking looking for work. Is it one that excites you? Is it one where you can’t WAIT to go to work every morning? Is it, perhaps, a career path you love but don’t like the current position or workplace? Make a list of everything you like, and even things you don’t. From that list, you can make another list of what you can change, and another for what you cannot change or is out of your control. Sometimes a change of attitude on your part makes the workplace much more tolerable. Sometimes a change in jobs or positions within a company is warranted. And other times, it’s time to look for another career. 3. Revamp your resume. If you are looking to change career paths, or even career sectors, create resumes geared to those sectors. You may be thinking “I have no experience as a carpenter!” but you may be a skilled wood worker with a portfolio of pieces. If you want to go into advertising and have been an accountant, list your skills and what you have accomplished as an accountant and anything you did in that job that gave you an idea of why you want to go into advertising full time. Don’t be afraid to take some classes, even in the evening, read publications geared towards your dream path, and dream about what it will be like to live your dream and find your career bliss. Look for our book, coming out soon, “Find Your Bliss, Reveal Your Destiny!”.

You Are Three Steps Away from Mr. Right

zhohara — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 10:11:56 +0000

I believe strongly in the interconnection of people in our day to day lives. The “six degrees of separation” idea is that every person on the planet is about six steps away from, by introduction, any other person on the planet. Think of the statement “friend of a friend of a friend” and you will understand that you can be six steps or fewer away from your “perfect for you” life partner.

So what should that mean to you? Well, in short, the more you get out there the more you widen your circle, the closer you are to meeting your perfect guy or gal. Now, I hear the collective “whine” rising up from behind my computer. “But I am so tired of getting out there.” “I never meet anyone I am attracted to.” “Noone is ever attracted to me.” or my favorite, “I am shy so I never leave my house.” Guess what? Although the potential for falling in love with the pizza delivery guy is there I suppose, taking a chance and doing something, one thing, ANYTHING, different will greatly influence your chance of meeting interesting people.

If you have never heard the definition of insanity let me share it with you. ”Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome.” You go to work, come home, sit on the sofa, watch TV, sit at the computer, MAYBE you try to meet someone on the internet via a photo and a profile (more on that later), and you go to bed only to wake up and do the same thing again the next day. While there are indeed slight chances to meet someone on the subway, chances are you are on autopilot going through your day to day lives. You never even look up and see what is right in front of you. The person next to you might be everything you ever dreamed of but they are on autopilot as well.

If you want to “date to mate” you have to get out there, do something different, look up every once in awhile. I am not saying you have to take a class or join a single’s club if you don’t want to do so. I am telling you that taking a class would expand your mind and introduce you to like minded people who might be perfectly wonderful or know someone perfectly wonderful so it’s worth a thought. Even if you stopped at a bookstore or started to market in a different neighborhood, took up jogging or found an interest in sailing, found a farmer’s market or picked your own strawberries, your “perfect for you” mate is really just six or fewer steps away from you.

If you never leave your cocoon, there is still a chance. Cute new neighbors or their cute old college buddies, painters, plumbers, mechanics or delivery people could make potential mates. If you never leave your cocoon, however, I strongly suspect you will never know that, right around the corner could be your great love!

Dating is NOT a Bowl of Pasta

zhohara — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 13:02:35 +0000

Hello readers! So you have decided it’s time to settle down. Maybe you are getting a bit older or maybe you are tired of the dating scene and you just want that special guy or gal. Whatever your reasons for wanting to find Mr. or Ms. Right, we need to get one thing straight right now. Dating is NOT a bowl of pasta. I am not suggesting you not date around, even more than one at a time. I am telling you that HOW you go about dating is more important than HOW MANY you date. The first thing about “dating for mating” you need to understand is that you have to be clear about what it is you want but you have to also have the flexibility to get that you don’t always know what you need. You may have dated so many of the wrong men or women that you think you will never find the right one, but remember, they are all wrong until one is right one. [wp_quote]You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince…[/wp_quote] So why do I say dating is not a bowl of pasta? Most people, when they start to think about settling down, do so without any real plan. They throw whatever they are dating against a wall and see what sticks. Now, that may not sound like a bad way to do it. After all, I am telling you to date around, right? There is a difference to dating with a plan and flailing around trying to make something stick. Dating with a plan involves figuring out your ideas of a “perfect for you” mate. I don’t mean figuring out the height and weight , hair color, etc.(although having an idea of what you like is definitely a great manifesting tool) . I am talking about figuring out what emotional needs you have and what attributes in a mate would suit meeting those needs. Look at your own abilities to meet the needs of your partner as well. An example of figuring out which attributes compliment your own would be if you are a fiercely independent person, don’t look for a man that is clingy or wants to spend every moment with you. If you are a person who needs a lot of attention, don’t attempt to have a relationship with a person who is fiercely independent. The flipside to this is being TOO picky. You can get the image of what you want so ingrained in your mind that you develop tunnel vision. Remember, you may meet someone with your exact physical desires and he or she could be totally wrong for you emotionally. Conversely, someone you may not have pictured in your mind may be just what you are looking for but you will pass them by because of the image in your mind. There is a balance even in manifesting the partner of your dreams. I do subscribe to the “say yes to everyone” who asks you out for 30 days school of thought while you are in the process of figuring out what you want. This helps you get an idea of what you do and don’t like in a potential mate. You do this only for 30 to 60 days before you start to narrow down the field. In that 30 days, stay “out” as much as possible, and don’t be afraid to do new things. More on doing new things in future posts. You still don’t get why I say “dating is not a bowl of pasta”. Many times when dating you may be tempted to make every dating scenario a relationship even when you may not even like the person. You try just for the sake of not being alone. This is a mistake. This is settling. You aren’t alone if you are dating. You can’t find that really special man or woman if you are settling. Remember that.

Shortcodes – Columns

zhohara — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 22:32:42 +0000

Metrolo comes bundled with a number of Shortcodes. These Shortcodes make editing content a snap. Also, there is a nice little inbuilt ‘Shortcode Generator’ so you don’t have to go around hunting for Shortcode syntax.

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